Do it! Initially I thought I was in the wrong place, that there was nothing I could learn from this type of forum-some discussion, some issues seemed not to be relevant. But! Some other components are very worthwhile.
I would say if you really love her/them then ask yourself: Do you want to change? Do you want to be respected by your family? You might think you are respected but like I found they were scared to say otherwise. I would also say, you might think you are a great couple.