Testimonials from people who have experienced the effects of the Heavy M.E.T.A.L program.
The program saved my relationship and my family. In the course men dealt with not just physical abuse but also verbal abuse, their total attitude towards the way they treated other people.
I did not realize I had taken on traits from my father. Since I completed Phase 1, I have never felt happier in my life. For the first time in 38 years, I have enjoyed Christmas with my family. I encourage any man that looses his temper to do the Heavy M.E.T.A.L program. I am looking forward to the Phase 2 level.
John Mornington Peninsula
I feel it is a great program and it is great that men can get together and talk over issues affecting men. I like being able to speak freely about my feeling and thoughts with the other guys and I know I am not going to be judged. This program certainly helped me make change and understand the confusion I had inside my head.
I didn’t want to do this program, but my wife said if I don’t she is leaving. Over the last 24 weeks, I have learnt more about life in so many ways. I have recognised my negative feelings and thoughts have been feeding my anger. I did not know I was expressing this anger in an abusive violent way. I have learnt to express myself in a way not to hurt others and most of all I now believe in myself. Thanks to David and the facilitators of the program, my wife and I are the happiest we have ever been
John Mornington Peninsula
Dave, Thanks again for your assistance with my life.
I use your techniques in dealing with day to day issues every day. Its amazing how my life can change so much. My children aren’t afraid anymore. I can reason with them now. I can explain things to them without just telling them off with that loud voice. I think before I act. I think before I speak. I can listen to others when I usually did not.
I have learnt to respect other peoples feelings and show my feelings as well.
It has been hard and uncomfortable and still is. Its like I have two personalities the old and the new. The old is quick to react. The new is take my time think the issue through and don’t thought stack.
Some responses from my family are :
Gee dad your fun now.
More laughter in the home.
More talking even to the point where my children are saying that we talk a lot now.
Can you believe that your course has given me the strength to stop drinking and realise the damage that has caused, stop smoking 60 smokes a day with no other assistance like nicobate etc and get my health back. Why ? Because my life is back on track. Before, I really didnt care if I lived or died.
The patterns of anger were showing through to my children. I think I have been able to turn my life around just in time for them to learn new ways of dealing with issues that hurt them while they can still learn quickly.
Without you this cycle would have continued through to my children and their children. When you look at the big picture you have done a great service to me, my family and the community as a whole.
Congratulations for a one stop service that has changed my life, and the lives of everyone around me.
What would you tell someone whose partner is asking them to do this program and be hesitant about doing it?
As long as you are honest with yourself and not afraid of any stigma, the program will change your life. You will develop a close bond with a group of men who want to improve their relationships. You will gain insight and knowledge that you could not possibly acquire on your own. Sharing experiences with pears that I would not otherwise have anything in common is a great experience.
The program, has provided the following insights for me: “I have choices in life”(we all have life). Behaviour change is up to me. I need to take responsibility and acknowledge the impact of my behaviour on my family and friends. Behaviour change is definitely possible!
Ryan Chelsea Heights
This has been the best thing I have done (apart from getting married). This stuff is real and change is real if you be honest with yourself. There is no judgement; you really can work on sensitive topics. The first step is the hardest but that is the step to change. David Tanya and Jacquie are fantastic and you can count on them for giving you valuable advice and guidance.
Glen Yarra Glen
Definitely give it a go as you don’t know what you really like in yourself until you things pointed out to you. Good to join in discussion with others who are in the “same boat”. Stick at it, as it will take a few sessions to fall in to place, but when it does, “WOW”! Read all the literature given out especially any books recommended.
If at anytime you have questioned yourself whether the way you handle things could be improved or just that there must be a better way of living for you and your family you should have already done this program. Good thing is, it’s never too late to change!
I would strongly encourage you to do this. Look at it from behaviour change point of view if anger management does not sit comfortable. Do all of the Phase One. You will not regret. How much is your relationship worth? If you say you are prepared to do anything – then do it. You will learn great tools.